Comments on: Three Ways to Influence Behavior: Your Own and Others http://www.ugluu.com/three-ways-to-influence-behavior-your-own-and-others/ What makes us stick together? Mon, 07 Jun 2010 23:15:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: kare anderson http://www.ugluu.com/three-ways-to-influence-behavior-your-own-and-others/comment-page-1/#comment-30 kare anderson Thu, 04 Jun 2009 15:13:48 +0000 http://www.ugluu.com/?p=266#comment-30 Sherrie: you raise an important point. A past mentor of mine, Howard Raiffa offered this image regarding reinforcing positive, productive behavior in others. Consider that, in every situation, we have a mental scale in our minds, tilting towards acting well or badly. Since we are innately pattern-oriented (imprinted with behaviors that have become habits) we will instinctively act in ways to avoid pain, embarrassment or other negative emotions and towards getting appreciated or otherwise rewarded. The goal, then is to act in ways to reinforce someone whenever that person has acted in positive ways. As well, to not "corner" or "harden" someone into defending "bad' behavior but to speak to the alternative behavior you seek, or simply ignore the behavior so it does not "work" or other way of being that weighs in as a disadvantage on the mental scale of that person. Thanks for commenting! Also, there are several posts on this site already that have helped me in dealing with Wallys. Sherrie: you raise an important point. A past mentor of mine, Howard Raiffa offered this image regarding reinforcing positive, productive behavior in others. Consider that, in every situation, we have a mental scale in our minds, tilting towards acting well or badly. Since we are innately pattern-oriented (imprinted with behaviors that have become habits) we will instinctively act in ways to avoid pain, embarrassment or other negative emotions and towards getting appreciated or otherwise rewarded.

The goal, then is to act in ways to reinforce someone whenever that person has acted in positive ways. As well, to not “corner” or “harden” someone into defending “bad’ behavior but to speak to the alternative behavior you seek, or simply ignore the behavior so it does not “work” or other way of being that weighs in as a disadvantage on the mental scale of that person. Thanks for commenting!

Also, there are several posts on this site already that have helped me in dealing with Wallys.

]]> By: Sherrie Hagenhoff http://www.ugluu.com/three-ways-to-influence-behavior-your-own-and-others/comment-page-1/#comment-29 Sherrie Hagenhoff Wed, 27 May 2009 18:25:45 +0000 http://www.ugluu.com/?p=266#comment-29 Intriguing! Seems the hardest thing is to create the value for "better behavior". Same for the "I can". Some people seem to LOVE being Wallys! Thanks for sharing the web site, Amanda! Intriguing! Seems the hardest thing is to create the value for “better behavior”. Same for the “I can”. Some people seem to LOVE being Wallys! Thanks for sharing the web site, Amanda!

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